Knowing One's Truth

A reflection on honesty, evolving truth, and the quiet strength of living with integrity.

North encourages honesty. Not the confrontational kind. The internal kind.

It may feel like a simple question, but it’s a big one to sit with:

What’s my truth?

(When I use the word ‘truth’ here, I’m not referring to universal or absolute truth. I’m talking about what feels genuinely aligned for me, given my experience and awareness at this point in this life).

For me, one thing is clear - my truth evolves as I evolve.

What I hold as true today is not what I held as truth a year ago, let alone ten years ago. I’m really good with this and believe it to be a sign of personal growth and expansion.

Growth has a way of reshaping what fits. This doesn’t make my earlier truths wrong; it simply means they belonged to a different version of me.

Many of the things we come to live from are shaped by where we are in life and our journey to this point. Some were formed to help us make sense of the world or to keep us safe at a particular time (childhood example: strong people don’t show emotion). Others are absorbed quietly, taught, inherited, or reinforced so often, they simply become part of our operating system.

North invites us to notice this.

And it asks us to be willing to look honestly at ourselves. All of ourselves – with love, not judgement.

Standing in one’s truth means acknowledging the parts we’re proud of and the parts we might prefer not to think about. The shadow. The places where we still feel tender or unsure.

This kind of honesty isn’t always comfortable. In fact, it can be bloody tough – speaking from ongoing personal experience.

Adding to this, we live in a world that feels increasingly polarised. It seems we’ve lost the ability to sit with difference, as if one version of truth must cancel out another. History shows us where that can lead.

Most of life doesn’t actually operate in absolutes. It lives in nuance. In context. In the grey.

My truth is not necessarily your truth. In fact, countless truths are coexisting. One way I think about it is this: my truth is what personally resonates, based on my experience, awareness, and understanding at this point in time.

Sitting in the North, it gently encourages us to ask: Is this actually my truth? Or is it something I’ve learned, inherited, or never paused long enough to question?

To note, this isn’t about doubting everything. It’s about discernment. About choosing consciously which truths we continue to live from.

North asks questions like:

• What’s actually going on for me right now?
• Where am I steady - and where am I stretched?
• What am I avoiding naming?

It invites a deeper listening - one that includes emotion, energy, and intuition, not just rational thought.

Standing in one’s truth can be particularly challenging when it runs counter to the social norms of the day. Recent years have shown us just how much pressure can exist to conform, to align, or to stay quiet. In those moments, knowing your own truth, quietly and internally, becomes an anchor.

Because whether we name it or not, our truth shows through. In our values. In our actions. In the choices we make, and the ones we don’t.

Often, we don’t fully recognise our truth until they’re challenged. That challenge can be an invitation. Not necessarily to abandon what we believe, but to review it, refine it, and allow it to evolve if desired. A truth can shift and still be yours.

And something I’ve learnt, well, still learning, I don’t have to convince anyone of my truth. I simply have to live it. It may not be to everyone’s liking - but then again, neither is everyone to mine.

The greatest gift we can give ourselves is confidence in who we are - a beautiful human being. One learning and evolving alongside many others who are doing the same.

When more of us can stand tall in our own truth while respecting the truths of others, we quietly model what it looks like to live with integrity.

For me, that is one of the most powerful forms of self-leadership there is.
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